Love Yourself, Love the World
In the heed to the PEACE message round the world
Round the world, the message of peace is not being heard despite of the global initiatives on various subject of PEACE. The message of tolerance, dialogue, cooperation and harmony has been confronted with endless conflicts and threats of war. And if you are facing an abusive relationship, the decision to make should be non-biased and it will take time to repair and rebuild the damage from the experience, so be gentle with yourself, and don’t expect it to happen all at once.
Generally, other than for political veto, PEACE initiative should really come from the majority of humans- like you and I- the best exemplary in the REFLECTION of peace. A leader or a nation can only be as effective as its people.
Self Love -The greatest love of all!
“This self-pity and self-indulgence is unbecoming of the Great Soul that you are.” – Bhagavad Gita
Knowing how to love yourself is extremely important. Self love is at the very core of well being, joy, self-empowerment, and your ability to create and enjoy the kind of life you want. You cannot enjoy happiness if you are not at peace with yourself. Your relationship with yourself is the most important one you’ll ever have.
From the spiritual perspective, it is by turning your attention inward to yourself that you are able to experience your connection with Life, God, and people and as well to love the world.
You must be at peace with yourself before you can be at peace with the world around you, you must love yourself before you can love others, you must experience it yourself before you can share with others.
From the human perspective, every relationship you ever have with someone else exactly mirrors one or more aspects of the relationship you have with yourself.
What has it go to do with ‘The Law of Attraction’?
Not knowing how to love yourself can be severely debilitating. You are normally plagued by indecision and self doubt. In more intense cases, there is depression and self despise, which affects you in every area of your life. The negativity in you cuts you off from your connection with the love around you and the world.
Until you know how to love yourself there will be an inner war going on that divides your energy and sabotages your efforts to move toward happiness and love. Besides, if you don’t love yourself you tend to attract people and circumstances that mirror your negative beliefs and feelings about yourself. By the Law of Attraction it couldn’t be any other way. We draw to us the manifestations of what we FEEL. So in order for you to draw loving people and circumstances to you, you need to know how to love yourself first.
People who have found happiness within themselves are usually the most desirable and appealing to others especially the opposite sex and become like magnets because they are at peace with themselves which generate a sense of joy that shines through the physical appearance making you more attractive…
We spend so much time waiting to be loved, hoping love will find us, searching and yearning for that special love. We feel empty and lost without it. Wanting someone to give us love and fill us up. Unfortunately, that’s not how life usually works. Loving yourself is mainly having self-respect which is the only dependable way to create love in your own life to share with others.
To be able to be loved, you must love and respect yourself as much as you do to others. By doing so, you are enabling positive vibes/energy allowing for great things to happen in your life. If you feel as if your life is for nothing, I can tell you that you are 100% wrong! In order to love someone you must love yourself first.
Personally, like everyone else, I wanted to be loved, desired, to feel good about myself, to have someone there to make me feel good about myself when I didn’t. During the course of most relationships between a man and a woman, our moods were totally contingent upon the way he or she responded – a compliment would lead to exhilaration. If it is an insult, well we fall to pieces!
Most of the time, we are looking outside ourselves for love and approval, a fatal mistake I see especially women committed all the time.
Normally only when a relationship ended, we then learn the value of loving ourselves. We’ll all been told that it is essential to love yourself but how does one cultivate such a love?
We all have faced a sense of insecurity and self-doubt at some point in our lives, but these burdens should be a thing of the past now and we should evolve into someone who is truly confident with self worth.
This will not happen by chance, it took some work and a shift in mindset and attitude which everyone can achieve using some of the tips below.
1. Your self-dialogue is key:
Negative thinking of self is inevitable. Often we judge or criticise ourselves harshly. To start building self esteem, first listen to how you talk to yourself. You have to be aware of the situation before you can change it! Do any of these thoughts sound familiar? Sometimes we think to ourselves,“There is something wrong with me. I’m really messed up”, “It’s all my fault”, “I am in-competent”, I don’t know what I’m doing”, “I’m fat”, “I’m not beautiful enough”, I’m not successful”, and the dance goes on. Stop entertaining such negative thoughts. Thoughts can have huge impact on your mood and mindset. When you are having negative thoughts, you are creating a self-filling prophecy. The good news is you can control your thoughts and think of your good qualities whenever negativity creeps over you. So learn to value yourself and affirm your self-worth through loving yourself by start having positive self talk instead!
2. Find out what confidence looks like:
It doesn’t matter what people think of you, it is the perception of self that makes all the difference. If you want to be confident, then make a list that details out what confidence looks like, and then act accordingly. For example, if you wish to make a bold statement in your dressing but had been hesitating before, tell yourself that a confident person knows how to carry herself through her positive body posture and it will definitely help to support and project that bold new look of yours with unique sense of personal style – making you look attractive and stands out!
3. To win love:
If you are afraid of approaching a guy because you are afraid of rejection, say to yourself:- “a confident person is not afraid of rejection because a confident person knows they’re fabulous and know they’re good catch in every sense and whoever doesn’t see that, he is missing out. Good self-talk in such scenario would be:”I am a confident person and I will be truly happy if this guy responds to me but it won’t affect me if he doesn’t.”
4. List your attributes or good qualities:
Acknowledging your attributes is a wonderful thing and is a practise you should adopt. You can write down your positive traits or consciously let them run through your mind. Everyone has positive attributes, from physical features to personality traits. From now on, forget what you are lacking, and focus on all the incredible things that make you who you are. You should love and celebrate who you are and it should be something that causes you to experience great happiness and pride, never shame or despair.
5. Know that you can be happy alone:
Having a significant other is a wonderful thing, but it isn’t the only thing. If you don’t have a special someone in your life, it’s okay and it’s actually great because you get to be totally free to choose how to live which is a luxury most people do not have. Before you can be in love with someone or the world, you need to find happiness within yourself. We are all wonderful, amazing creatures and given that, and we do not necessary need a man to mirror this back to us.
6. Treat others with respect:
Bringing joy to other people’s lives will help you find joy in your own. In addition, those that you treat well will likely repay you with the same kindness. Gradually you will start to feel your worth through the smiles of gratitude. However, don’t just be very kind to people so you can receive royal treatment.
7. Create goodwill and thankfulness by practicing random deeds of kindness:
Share your being with others in many ways. Share your knowledge in nice ways or make a small donation to a needy person or to an unfortunate child. Help a candidate or a political cause or a community project. Help a school or church.
8. Learn to let go of past events:
You deserve a fresh beginning! There are a lot of people out there that have had hard lives/bad beginnings or moments. Don’t close yourself out of grief, disappointments, or fears of future ridicule. Acknowledge your feelings, but work to put them behind you. Cherish what you have learned from your challenges, and how you have changed and grown from them.
9. Try to look past ‘material’ objects and feelings:
We all want a nice house, nice things, someone to share our life with. Find your true wants objectively. Do not crave power.
10. Be yourself and nurture yourself:
Be who you really are, express yourself, laugh, play, and sing. Don’t be afraid of what others think, they feel the same way and want to express themselves but are afraid to show it too. Self care is very important. Do something that gives you peace, love, and joy with yourself. You feel good about yourself because you live your life with a purpose.